Lately, I've been thinking about that amazing phrase, "I'm so proud of you". We've been making sure to tell Ruby that when she accomplishes a new goal or is especially kind to her friends that day. It's one of those things that you often hear from your parents or from your partner, but how often to you say it to your friends or your co-workers? It feels so nice to hear, so why not making others in your life know how much you notice their hard work and accomplishments by telling them so more often?
I hope you have a great (and proud) weekend, guys!
{Photos by Bob Cho. Ruby's outfit from Zara.}
I totally agree, we should say this (and hear this) more often! Why not!
x Lily
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I say it every night to my daughter. I learned it from Mr. Rogers 🙂
We often use the phrase, “good job” when we praise my daughter.
Omg I say it ALL the time to my daughter, probably because my mom used to say it to me and often that’s still a major part of my motivation. Really, sometimes that’s all we need to hear to make all the hard work worth it.
I love saying to my four year old son “you must be so proud of yourself!” so that he can grow up with the foundation inside of him rather than looking for it externally. Here’s hoping this little tiny experiment works!
So cute! I say it to my neices and nephews, no kids yet 🙂 However I do say it to my husband and I try to make it a habit every day. Great advice!
have a great weekend!
Allison over at Allison’s Eye
I agree! That’s something I always felt myself wanting to hear as I was growing up, but because I didn’t hear it often, I always thought I wasn’t doing anything worth celebrating or to be proud of. It is a phrase I love hearing now and get quite emotional over – maybe because I didn’t hear it often or maybe because the phrase is so great to hear and to tell people 🙂 I remember on your video telling Ruby you were having another baby, and she tells you “I’m so proud of you”. It made me emotional and really is so sweet of her! Especially knowing the appropriate use of the phrase. Beautiful 🙂
I love the idea of saying it to people other than children (kids too, of course). I think my mom, my grandma, my husband’s parents and of course, my sweet husband, could use a compliment once in a while and this is a good one. Great reminder!
I love this post. I am working at a pretty thankless job and as silly as it sounds, a little praise goes a long way.
This phrase does real magic! Thank you for this lovely post as a reminder that I need to use this phrase to many friends around me 🙂
🙂 sounds familiar. xx
I remember hearing your daughter tell you she was “proud of you” when you shared the news on the new baby.
My son will often tell me this too (he’s a few months behind Ruby). And he’ll also let me know when if I’m a good girl. So to be silly I will tell friends and family “You were a really good girl today”. They laugh and think it’s silly but inside they are saying “I was a really good girl, wasn’t I”.
I just love this, my (tiger) parents didn’t start saying this until recently – makes me tear up all the time!
Great idea! I also really like the phrase “I’m so impressed by ____.” Especially when I’m talking to my husband, I like that better because it doesn’t sound like I’m taking any credit for his accomplishment.
I have to disagree with you on that. I feel like parents over-use these days. It’s kind of like no one is a winner or loser. I tell my son I am proud of him but more importantly he should be proud of himself.
so true! thanks for the reminder!
I love this notion however the latest research says to focus on praising the effort. I still think it’s great to tell people how proud you are of them, but at times it can create a burden for them to hear this. I think praising the effort is more specific and mitigates anxiety for people and children in relationships.
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Adorable pictures! I can definitely agree with that phrase. It’s nice to hear from someone that you made them proud or that they appreciate the work you do. Love this.
xoxo
Taylor
OMG that 2nd pic!!!!
Our convo the other night inspired this post! 😉
Joy
I so agree! We don’t have kids, but we make sure to even say it to one another. It’s important to tell people in your life how proud you are of them.
Love this. I teared up when Ruby said that in the video where you told her about the baby. So sweet 🙂
you are so beautiful
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I think it is better to say “you can be proud of you” than “I am proud of you”, because it tells her not to look for approval from other people. What do you think?
So cute !! These little words mean soo much to a daughter !!
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Ohhhhh I so agree! What a wonderful reminder!
Two friends have said this to me on separate times. It made me feel great both times. 🙂
Hi Joy, such a great idea! When I was in grad school for elementary education I read a book about empowering children to believe in their abilities and not simply work for outside motivation/praise. We were taught to say “Aren’t you proud of yourself (usually with explanation included like: “I noticed you kept going back to swing on the monkey bars even though you were having a hard time getting to the middle. Now, you can go all the way to the other side of the monkey bars. You really worked hard! Aren’t you proud of yourself?” Nothing wrong with saying “I am so proud of you” In fact, I will say it to my daughter when she is a bit older but thought you’d appreciate other suggestions for how to praise Ruby. Btw, you have the cutest family ever!
Yes! We do this with our boys too. It truly makes them beam. And lately our 4-year-old has started to say it about himself… “Mama, I’m so proud of myself!” Which is just amazing.
Good reminder and special for kids to hear. As a kinder teacher, I also will ask the kids if they are proud of themselves. I will remind them of my pride in association to what they did like “I’m so proud that you remembered to raise your hand!” Or “I’m proud when you solve problems without me. It shows me that you are responsible” In addition to this, I will include “aren’t you proud of yourself?”, if the situation is appropriate like “you should be so proud to tie your shoes all by yourself!”
I think it’s really important to reward children for doing good things and when they’ve achieved something. Children should know and acknowledge what they are good at, starting at an early age. It’s so easy to criticise and I think we tend to do that a lot, saying it’s wrong to do this and to do that (which we should do as well).