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Let's Discuss: Picking a Side of the Bed

Let's Discuss: Picking a Side of the Bed

Recently, at the Oh Joy office, we got into a VERY serious debate…

The question was whether you have a preferred side of the bed to sleep on. It's something I've always wondered whether other people care about choosing…whether sleeping alone OR next to someone. Most of us at the office do have a favorite side of the bed and had that side before we were in relationships, too. I have always preferred sleeping on the right side of the bed (right side when you are in the bed). However, one person at Oh Joy said she doesn't have a side. She and her partner go to bed however they happen to with no real side they stick to.

    "What about your night stand?"

    "Where do you put your phone and your hand cream?"

    "So you just go on whatever side?"

It was probably one of the most ridiculous conversations we had but really a rare thing to hear. So tell me….Do YOU have a preferred side of the bed?

Items shown: Benjamin Moore Banana Yellow paint, Max Wanger cloud print, Teil Duncan beach print, Framebridge frame, Target side table, Dwell Magazine x Target lamp, Lorena Canals rug, CB2bed, Poketo geos, Amazon lava lamp, Suku pillowcases, Ikea yellow pillow, Castle round pillow, Arro Home cloud pillow, Arro Home duvet cover, Ban.do purse, Arro Home yellow throw blanket (past season), Target pink shag, Bryr clogs, Target bookshelf, The Container Store pink acrylic box, Studio DIY avocado clutch,Target canisters, Target gold geo (past season), The Container Store yellow box (similar).

{Photo by Casey Brodley, styling by Julia Wester, styling assistance by Jess Hong.}

35 comments

  1. I’ve not got a preferred side as in left or right, but I’d never sleep on the wall side. I always have the side of the bed closest to the bedside table!!

  2. DEFINITELY have a side of the bed, I sleep furthest from the door, even when my husband and I travel. It’s funny, I’ve never consciously thought it was the “safer” side until reading the above comments but maybe that plays into it!
    Right now, however, I’m 32 weeks pregnant so I need to be closest to the bathroom… so my husband and I have switched – it’s totally weird and an adjustment!

  3. Haha we don’t have sides either here ! Most of the time we happen to sleep on the same side but nothing is written in stone and we can just switch side, like that. You should try it gives me a feeling a freedom kind of ๐Ÿ˜‰

  4. I always prefer the side away from the windows. So I’ll have my permanent side at home but when I travel, it changes! My husband lets me pick first then he just takes the other side.

  5. Oh yes. I prefer the left side (when you are in the bed). Even when on vacation or visiting family I always sleep on the left side and my husband sleeps on the right. I’ve always slept on the left side even when sleeping alone.

  6. I’m curious…for the folks that have no permanent sides, do you also not have your own pillow? Do you just use whatever is on the side you picked that night or pick up your pillow and move it?

  7. Before I was married, it was the right side usually. But now that I have my 6ft 280lb husband, I usually make him sleep closest to the door, should a scary monster appear in the middle of the night ๐Ÿ˜‰

  8. How do they have no side of the bed!?
    We definitely have sides of the bed. For me it is less about left and right and more about how the bed is oriented in the room. If one side is against the wall, that is my side. If the bed is not against a wall, I prefer the right side (from the in bed perspective), which is the side I currently sleep on. I have to have my own designated nightstand or I’ll be moving my lip balm, hand cream, water, and phone charger every night.

  9. I prefer to sleep on my left side with my back to the middle of the bed with my left arm to the back, this opens up the chest cavity for better breathing. However, because of space issues I am sleeping on the right side of the bed….
    I do have a nightstand, with hand cream, chap stick, phone, lamp, pictures and books….
    To change it up, my husband and I, sleep where our feet usually are, it really allows for better sleeping….not sure why?…but we do this maybe 4 times a month.
    I just have to be at the edge ….I like my legs hanging out of the blanket. ๐Ÿ™‚

  10. Me too! It feels a little silly because I’m a strong and independent woman, damnit! But I allow myself this small comfort ๐Ÿ™‚

  11. Congrats on your pregnancy. Take care.
    I learned to sleep on my left with my left arm behind, to open chest cavity and breathe better. I needed it when I was pregnant…now I still sleep like that….not all the time. Have you tried sleeping in this way? Try it and let me know if it helps. ๐Ÿ™‚

  12. My husband was in the Marines and is set on always being on the side of me in which he can protect me. So, my side of the bed is always the side away from the door… in our home, that happens to be the right side (when laying in bed). However, not having a set side of the bed at home would drive me bonkers! My nightstand houses my books, my jewelry tray, and other trinkets. A designated side at home is a must for me!!

  13. At home, I am always farthest from the door. So if we rearrange furniture-the sides change. Although, if we are ever in a hotel room with two beds, I always sleep on the left side of the bed. It’s so strange to realize how silly of a habit this is!

  14. This is such a funny topic. I tend to sleep on the side closest to the door. I don’t remember the article now, but a few years ago I read something along the lines where women and mothers especially tend to sleep on the side of the bed that is closest to the door. I don’t know if it’s womanly intuition (fight or flight evolution) that tells me to automatic go to the side closest to the door, but after I read that article, I noticed that I do sleep on the side of the bed closest to the door no matter if it’s in our home, a relatives home or hotel. Does anyone else do that?

  15. My husband and I both prefer the right side, so we actually take turns- the left is cooler in the summer and warmer in the winter, im always cold and he’s always warm, so we switch 1/2 way through the year ๐Ÿ™‚

  16. I’m shocked with all of you who don’t have a side! This is fascinating. I think it sounds so adventurous & carefree. I wish I was that cool. But my husband & I even tend to go to our sides when we take photos, too. I’m on the LEFT. Even when I was single & used the whole bed, i navigated from the left.

  17. I sleep on the right side when in the bed. I also sleep mostly on my right side and I like facing away from the middle of the bed. Sometimes when I feel someone breathing close to my face when I try to sleep I will unintentionally hold my breath and trying to breath at the same pace as them and then I start to feel like I’m going to have a panic attack. It feels clostraphobic somehow.

  18. I have to sleep facing the window i don’t know why but i like to hear the rain on the windows and it is the same when i’m in hospital iv’e got to be next to a window

  19. I sleep closest to the door because usually every night at least one kid wanders in with a nightmare or something. (We have 5 kids). They come to find me and it’s easiest if I am closest to the door.

  20. I sleep closest to the door because usually every night at least one kid wanders in with a nightmare or something. (We have 5 kids). They come to find me and it’s easiest if I am closest to the door.

  21. I sleep closest to the door because usually every night at least one kid wanders in with a nightmare or something. (We have 5 kids). They come to find me and it’s easiest if I am closest to the door.

  22. We don’t really have a side of the bed. It just depends on who is sleeping in the bed (we cosleep so whichever kid falls asleep first we adjust). But when it’s just us two, we still don’t really have a preferred side. Our bed is up against a wall and I usually like being on the wall side (i feel like i get more room that way) but I’d be okay if he falls asleep next to the wall.

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