Recently, my husband and I got into a disagreement over something (I can’t even remember what it was about!). I stated my points, he stated his. And then, he told me…
…when I feel uncomfortable in a conversation, I look away and lose eye contact. I thought…what?! In our over 25 years together, I had no idea I did that. I am a stickler for eye contact in conversations and actively teach my kids to make eye contact with everyone they speak to. So I was completely unaware I did that.
But when he told me, it made complete sense.
Why would I want to look at someone during a disagreement? With someone who thinks I’m wrong in that moment? Ha!
But also, it’s a thing that I do want to work on, as eye contact to me is very important for connecting with someone on any level and to make them feel like they are being heard. I would find it off-putting to have a conversation with a friend, co-worker, or partner when they are not looking at me and seem off in the distance.
Do you notice your eye contact changes when you’re mood changes? I can’t be the only one, right?